Friends are everything to us, but if I can teach you anything it is that friends will come and go. Those that have come and gone are no less important in the journey as those that have stuck around. Men, women, girlfriend, boyfriends, husbands, wives, illicit lovers, they all play a part in who we are. Every time we leave them, or they leave us, we swap a little part of us; helping us grow from our experiences. I have friends who have long since disappeared into the world somewhere, but still the memories still live on. There are those friends who don’t take part in my current life, but I know if we met up, we would instantly start chatting about anything and everything. There have been friends who were absolute saviours, who passed through with just that purpose in mind, will live forever in my heart, but probably never be seen again. There are work friends, fun friends, friends I met on many a training course, who helped me through those endless hours of learning, friends I met for one night and one night only; all of those people who have shared my life at some point, as well as all of those people who are still waiting to share a moment of life with me. Friends will come in all shapes, sizes, genders, races and they all come with a little something to add to the passage of time they join us for, equally, they need something in return, this is not a one-way arrangement. Friends will take a little part of us, whether they stay or go, but be prepared to share, it is part of the experience.
There will be those people who inspire you to carry on, as well as those that inspire you to be anything but like them. There will be those that give you funny stories for late night drinking sessions, probably because the stories came as a result of late night drinking sessions. There will be those that go onto great things and you can proudly say you knew them. There will be friends that stick around and you wonder why; don’t worry, there will be a reason, you just might not know it yet. Sometimes people leave you and sometimes you leave them; it is hard to break up, but it is the end of a chapter and time to start a new one. Heart break will happen in both love and friendship, it helps build who we are and lead us on a path of life. Hearts heal and are all the stronger for it.
So, child of mine; take heed; people will come and go. They will be gone for any number of reasons, but a little piece of them lives on in you. You will never be the same again, every single second changes who you are, but never forget those past moments, take it from one who knows, even the bad moments serve a purpose. Sometimes I reflect on things that are better forgotten, but every time I do, I learn something more from it.
If I can give any advice to you, my beautiful, strong women to be, it is to choose your friends wisely, don’t rush to let someone into your life, but equally don’t dismiss those that are different. Trust and share, enjoy every minute, mourn your losses, but not for too long and celebrate every friendship for the amazing thing that it is.